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Mom blames Texas City Skate Park, lack of police action for son’s drug use - The Galveston County Daily News : Local News

July 29, 2014

Mom blames Texas City Skate Park, lack of police action for son’s drug use

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  • gecroix posted at 9:51 am on Wed, Nov 27, 2013.

    gecroix Posts: 2593

    The Police would no doubt be helped further by getting the names of the people the kid knows who are involved in selling drugs, but we are told he's afraid of retaliation.
    Suggestion for anyone else if this happens to them:
    Get the kid to tell YOU the names, then give them to the Police , BEFORE calling the GDN and posing for pictures. Unless there's only one kid involved, the sellers will have no way of knowing who talked. NOW, they KNOW that THIS kid has info that might implicate them, or so we are told by his Mom.
    I ask, which is the greater danger to the kid?
    Then, if/after not getting any attention from the Police in a timely manner, and after talking directly to the Chief, or even the Mayor, call up the News and go public.
    By now, all but the dumbest have gone to ground, or are hunting for someone to get back at, or a different venue.


     
  • abknape4 posted at 7:58 am on Wed, Nov 27, 2013.

    abknape4 Posts: 44

    The pics of the mom bent over and a bar bathroom screams "great parent!"

     
  • ruuthieann posted at 6:20 am on Wed, Nov 27, 2013.

    ruuthieann Posts: 17

    To Sverige: You said the boy put hinself in danger. This is how it can be compared to a rape victim that comes forward. "She put herself in danger" is exactly what people say. She deals with all the judgemental people, but in my eyes, she is the hero. She comes forward and saves another woman from getting raped. In my eyes, this mom is coming forward to stop another child from being victimized.

     
  • ruuthieann posted at 6:08 am on Wed, Nov 27, 2013.

    ruuthieann Posts: 17

    To DottieOA...How did she know it was "known drug haven"? Was this like common knowledge to everyone?

     
  • ruuthieann posted at 5:59 am on Wed, Nov 27, 2013.

    ruuthieann Posts: 17

    I commend the police chief for taking action, and I commend the mom for coming forward. We have a major drug problem in Texas City. The police are fighting the war on drugs (as evidenced by a recent major drug bust near Somerset). The citizens need to help by coming forward with information. Don't live your life like a horse with blinders on. It takes a village to raise a child! Single moms are not superwoman. It's easy to sit back on your throne and judge. I will help the police or victim whenever I can. If we all did this, Texas City would be a safer place to live.

     
  • Jose Boix posted at 10:18 am on Sat, Nov 23, 2013.

    Jose Boix Posts: 140

    Fence the skate-board park, hired security and gate-keepers, charge entry fees...

     
  • stevesmith posted at 6:44 am on Sat, Nov 23, 2013.

    stevesmith Posts: 5

    Maybe the mother is the blame not the cops...pretty said you put the blame on them when your son lives with you and not at the cops house....

     
  • DottyOA posted at 12:06 am on Fri, Nov 22, 2013.

    DottyOA Posts: 186

    Negative. She is spot on. This is not a conservative or liberal thing. This is a child getting involved in drugs because of extremely poor parenting. What parent allows their child to a known drug haven? This woman should be ashamed of herself and I hope that she has learned a lesson to KNOW her child and what he is doing.

     
  • DottyOA posted at 12:04 am on Fri, Nov 22, 2013.

    DottyOA Posts: 186

    Never thought I would agree with you, Sverige1, but you are spot on. Parents need to be responsible for their children. Not the schools nor the police. If you don't want to be a responsible parent keep your damn legs together.

     
  • DottyOA posted at 12:02 am on Fri, Nov 22, 2013.

    DottyOA Posts: 186

    Being a responsible parent and knowing your child. That is the best way.

     
  • DottyOA posted at 12:01 am on Fri, Nov 22, 2013.

    DottyOA Posts: 186

    How about being a concerned parent and forbidding your son from going to the skate park if it is a known drug hangout until it is cleaned out of the drug problem. It would be a cold day in hell if I would let my child go somewhere I knew there were drugs out in the open. Sounds like sound parenting to me.

     
  • sverige1 posted at 3:01 pm on Thu, Nov 21, 2013.

    sverige1 Posts: 3078

    Response to ruuthieann posted at 1:01 pm on Thu, Nov 21, 2013:

    That is indeed a good thing that the police are more aware due to the story and the woman's coming forward. Now that she's helped the police, she and her ex husband need help with her son. I hope between her, her husband, and their circle of friends/family they can keep the boy away from that park.

    If he stays home, gets therapy, and gets off the drugs he will be able to do his homework much better, be more prepared to go to school the next morning, and be on the road to being a good student and son. And, that will help the boy. Mom's job with the police ought to be considered over, IMHO.

    However, it's difficult to see how this can be compared with a woman's being raped. Most likely, a woman isn't involving herself in self-injurious behavior as she is unfortunately being violently attacked. This boy, on the other hand, is constantly putting himself in danger by being alone in a park while under the influence of drugs. He needs help. But, being at the park won't be part of the help he gets.

     
  • ruuthieann posted at 1:01 pm on Thu, Nov 21, 2013.

    ruuthieann Posts: 17

    Just like when a woman gets raped they blame her. I'm glad she came forward to warn other parents.

     
  • sverige1 posted at 11:49 am on Thu, Nov 21, 2013.

    sverige1 Posts: 3078

    Response to ScrabbleGuy posted at 10:51 am on Thu, Nov 21, 2013:

    And that, ScrabbleGuy, is where the parents come in at a crucial point. When we as pliable and "innocent" chldren see and hear the media lauding the use of drugs, drinking, or whatever - that is when good parenting comes in. Someone who is there to tell you, "Look, son...these TV shows and the music you hear are not the way I want you to go about in your life. That is Hollywood, this is real life."

    Interesting to note that it appears as though parents like these don't have a toehold at home on an 11 year old child in the 1st place. They aren't there, watching TV with the child or listening to music with him/her - to give him/her those teachable moments. In this case, instead, the child is let alone loose at a park. I say again: Where is mom and dad? Where is the close relative or friend who can help mom/dad corral the child?

    Take child home, teach him morals. And later, they all need to go to a family center for some therapy. A weekly family counseling session can help surface the possiblities of bullying, and lack of acceptance that you mention, which are very good points - by the way. Point is: Ban child from park, then make the child go to family therapy. The child has had too much "freedom" already and he is on the road to more trouble if someone (parent or relative) doesn't intervene. These services are "out there". Parent can start by going to child's school to get referrals on the community centers out there. Galveston County isn't a one-horse town place anymore. There are things available for this child and his parents.

     
  • ScrabbleGuy posted at 10:51 am on Thu, Nov 21, 2013.

    ScrabbleGuy Posts: 64

    Why is everyone blaming the parents? If you don't give a kid their freedom they rebel, if you give too much people blame you, if you have too much control the kid finds an escape and if not enough control the community burns you at the stake.

    Lack of attention, lack of acceptance, peer pressure, bullying- their are so many things that can lead a kid to drugs/alcohol.

    Don't forget that music and TV influence people...not on person even considered that! Sex, Drugs, and Music will always "be cool" with each passing decade. And with each passing decade standards lower. Breaking Bad is a very popular TV show that promotes the distribution and use of meth, but do they say drugs are bad at the end of each episode?

     
  • ruuthieann posted at 3:52 am on Thu, Nov 21, 2013.

    ruuthieann Posts: 17

    When I picked my 16 year old up from the skate park which has now become a "hang out", I was shocked when he told me he was offered drugs 10 times. He won't be going back but I do understand this woman's concern. I thought this was a safe place. Dealers will do anything to get someone hooked on drugs. This is a bad situation.

     
  • sverige1 posted at 5:07 pm on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    sverige1 Posts: 3078

    Reply to IHOG posted at 2:47 pm on Wed, Nov 20, 2013:

    I'm more "conservative" than you may ever think. I have my moments. These are one of those occasions where it chaps my hide when a parent can't take the bulls by the horns and get control over a situation like this.

    The world (not just TC) is a cruel place, full of dealers, perverts, and the like. But, just b/c we have a world like that doesn't mean a parent can absolve all responsibility and rely on the authorities to "raise" the child or keep child from harm.

    Other posters have a good point: Why on god's green earth is the boy left unattended, being only 11 years old?

     
  • IHOG posted at 2:53 pm on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    IHOG Posts: 2486

    Parents that can't raise drug free children produce the buyers.
    Hello mom, what drugs do you use? Alcohol, tobacco, prescription pain killers?

     
  • IHOG posted at 2:47 pm on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    IHOG Posts: 2486

    Sverige
    You almost sound like a conservative.
    The problem with drugs is not the seller. Buyers are the problem. With out a market there is no dealing.

     
  • IHOG posted at 2:38 pm on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    IHOG Posts: 2486

    The skate park could have a drug access problem. This woman may have a parenting problem. Polce aren't a substitute for parenting. Her parenting problem may be related to the skate park problem but her son is her problem.

     
  • capt_morgan posted at 2:23 pm on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    capt_morgan Posts: 6

    Only person to blame here are his parents. The boy probably has no parental supervision whatsoever. Where does this kid get the money to buy drugs?

     
  • DRS47 posted at 12:06 pm on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    DRS47 Posts: 46

    At 11 or 12 years of age, I knew drugs were very bad, not to take them, and too stay very far away from people who had them. Looking back, It was the DARE program that taught me. Whatever the case, the kid(s) are ultimately the ones who will have to say "no", because there will always be someone offering.

     
  • lanette7 posted at 11:37 am on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    lanette7 Posts: 9

    I have to wonder what a 9 & 11 year old are doing at a park without supervision to begin with? Why has the mother let them go there without an adult? I may let my teenager go along but certainly not a child! I see a lack of supervision problem that goes deeper than we think!

     
  • Shelly Pearl posted at 10:55 am on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    Shelly Pearl Posts: 50

    Maybe the police are just not showing their hand. Like a good poker player. Wherever these kids are getting the dope there is a low level dealer they are up in arms over. I would imagine a narcotics investigation takes time to trace upward to the importers or high level suppliers. So that when they do find out they make a sweep and stop the flow, for a while anyway. Going to the skate park will only cause the dealers to go somewhere else. Meanwhile keep a close watch on your kids and by that I mean make sure a parent or responsible person see that they get home from school safe and sound. They STAY at home once they are there unless accompanied by an adult. Give them plenty to do at home. Clean the yard, their room other chores. Let them help cook dinner. If you have your eyes on them as much as possible it becomes harder and harder for them to get into trouble. Oh yes, take them to church, or some type of spiritual gathering, when they see "everyone else" is not doing it it just might make an impression. Children learn by example. Soap Box put away for now.

     
  • sverige1 posted at 10:49 am on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    sverige1 Posts: 3078

    Response to abknape4 posted at 10:24 am on Wed, Nov 20, 2013:

    If I were the parent, I would actually be embarrassed by this publicity. Embarrassed by having my picture posted with all the details of my family problem(s).

    Instead, folks who "blame the law enforcement" or "blame the system" for their family's downfall seem to feel that "going public" with the issue (through whichever form of media who will listen and expose) is somehow an accomplishment that can be relished. I can't figure it out.

     
  • sverige1 posted at 10:38 am on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    sverige1 Posts: 3078

    I have mixed feelings. First, I can't believe that in 2013 where we have hidden cameras, APPs, and extreme security in airports and public buildings that there can't be a solution on the part of TX City police (with help from some agency) to have better vigilance and security. All in the goal to eradicate the drug dealing problem. If they had a good system, these thugs and dealers would go elsewhere, and the children of this county would be safer. In fact, we'd all be better off. No reason for Galv. county to be the crackhouse county of the state.

    That being said: I would think that mom, and definitely dad, is stronger than the son. Stop the boy from going off and getting in trouble! For goodness sake, the child doesn't even drive yet. How far and where else could the kid go on foot, or on a bicycle? Also, get some street-smart family member (cousin, uncle) who can hone in on the child and have family vigilance so that the little thug-in-the-making turns his life around?

    Can't mom and dad (although separated) form such a coalition and keep the boy from going to the skate park, cloister the boy at home, and use some old fashioned "convincing" so that the boy behaves? Do homework, clean room, rake leaves. Why are parents so helpless in this day and age?

     
  • abknape4 posted at 10:24 am on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    abknape4 Posts: 44

    Parent of the year!

    How about being a parent instead of blaming it on something else.

     
  • ScrabbleGuy posted at 8:36 am on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    ScrabbleGuy Posts: 64

    Kids with behavior issues have more chances of using drugs; however, kids can't just go to the local crackhouse. If a dealer introduces the drugs to them, temptation sets in. And once a kid has a connection, the kid will use more often.

    Texas City is having an epidemic forming and it needs to be contained.

     
  • ruuthieann posted at 3:37 am on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    ruuthieann Posts: 17

    Don233, think big picture. There are drug dealers that got a an 11 year old hooked on drugs. Let's just look for a solution so more kids don't get hurt.

     
  • ruuthieann posted at 3:33 am on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    ruuthieann Posts: 17

    It is true. The drug dealers are looking for a new source of income. My son said its z major problem at the skate park. Instead of trying to cover up the problem, tge police need to do a sting operation.

     
  • Don233 posted at 2:32 am on Wed, Nov 20, 2013.

    Don233 Posts: 262

    Her son is doing drugs, not because of a skate park, but rather him. The typical response by parents today, blame someone else for the actions of their child. Yo mom, better think about laying the blame on him. He's sure to fail if you don't start taking responsibility for YOUR CHILD and what he is doing.